QUESTION: Do you often receive criticism for suggesting mouth taping? And if you do, how do you respond to it? I have written an article about school age children and mouth taping, and people are going crazy and threaten to report me. Ha ha ha. I am thinking I will have time to practice my breathing if I get locked up because of this.
ANSWER: I received criticism, initially. Some complained that the Relaxator was too expensive, or that the tape might be fatal, or the breathing technique was fuzzy, and so on. Some criticism was justified and forced me to learn and develop new things. That criticism, I assimilated. Much of the criticism, however, was not justified. When I learned to ignore it and see it as if each person was actually curious, I came to conclude that:
- I am not here to convince anyone.
- I sow seeds with my breathing tips, and if I do it with love and warmth, these seeds will grow faster compared to sowing the seeds in a soil with a superior, judgmental, and self-important “I know best” attitude.
- I share my knowledge with those who want to listen and do not focus very much on those who are skeptical and not curious.
- All criticism is good as it means that the person or persons find it interesting and challenging enough to their own worldview that they have chosen to devote some of their precious power and energy to criticize it. In the criticism, there is also an opportunity to learn and sharpen my arguments and my presentation. The criticism also provides an excellent opportunity, a platform, to get a discussion started so that the topic becomes relevant for a longer period of time and offers an opportunity to give further arguments with new approaches.
- Do not polarize and enter into a discussion about what is right or wrong but try to be humble and respect the fact that we are all different and have different backgrounds, experiences and desires.
- Do not take criticism personally but see it as if those who criticize are your teachers who want to help you grow (at least on a subconscious level).
- Criticism gives us the opportunity for a moment’s reflection and consideration. What is aroused in me? How do I react? What is behind the other person’s reaction? Most often, we do not need to be afraid when someone gives full rein to release their inherent anger on us. Behind the anger, there is often fear, much like “do not scare the dog, as it may get angry.” Maybe inside, there is a small child of five who thirsts for love and is afraid not to find it.
Here is an example of criticism and my response from November 2018—
Email from a potential customer – 125 USD for a basic course? You are really a humane, good person! Like asthmatics do not already have problems. Damn! Great to charge 125 USD for the basic course! People with breathing panic with asthma inhalers on installment can really afford and want this. Do you sell colloidal silver as well? 125 USD per milliliter in that case too? Fucking dabbler!
MY answer –
Hi xxxxx! Thanks for your email. No, we do not sell colloidal silver. And the fact is that the Basic Course in Conscious Breathing costs 100 USD. There was probably some error on the website, which caused the price to be shown without VAT.
If you want help with your asthma but cannot afford the course, then you can, after all, contact medical care. They get their business to break even thanks to you and me, through taxes. I, on the other hand, run a private company and have no such income, so in order to support myself, I have to charge this price. But it is, after all, entirely your choice to take our course to see if breathwork can help you with your asthma.
I see the course as a service intended primarily for those who want to get to the root of their problems and are prepared to put in the work required. At the same time, we are all unique individuals, so there is no guarantee that breathing training will help. However, many have positive experiences of improving their breathing. You can read about some of our customers experiences at the bottom of the article, “Improve your breathing – Improve your asthma”.
What is also pleasing is that you do not actually need to take any course to improve your breathing. Much of the information is already on the website, for example, the seven good habits of Conscious Breathing. The book I wrote also contains many tips, and it can be borrowed from a library.
It also happens that we help people who are disadvantaged financially, with discounts or free products. What inspires us a great deal to do so is kindness, curiosity and humility.
Warm greetings Anders Olsson, Conscious Breathing.